DEAR DR COCKY
Mi have a lil issue with my girl and I wanted your opinion on how to move forward. I’ve been seeing my girl for a lil under year and everything is great but our sex life has become somewhat redundant. Mi no wah say boring. Me wah fi spice it up, I want a threesome. Mi kinda hint at it a few times but mi no quite sure how she would react if I came out directly and asked because she is generally very jealous when it comes to my interactions with other women. I have another girl who willing to be the “3rd party” so now all I need to do is convince my girl. What do I do?????
Tony M.
I find this very interesting that you think a threesome would resurrect your “dead” sex life. The information you provided is kinda limited. Does your girl share your opinion about your sex life? and if not is she aware of your opinion?
You see sir in any relationship communication is one of the most important ingredients and it is often overlooked. I’ve had threesomes before but it was always something that all parties involved wanted to do.You say your girl is very jealous so in your mind you don’t think she’d like the idea of witnessing you fuck another woman. So lets play devil’s advocate here. What if your girl asked you for a threesome with another man to “spice up” the relationship. What would be your reaction????
Thought provoking isn’t it? I know that every man’s fantasy is multiple women at once and at this point you have an opportunity because you already have a willing candidate. You don’t wanna cheat on your girl obviously because if you find one willing candidate outside of your relationship chances are you can find two. And dont take my last comment as me endorsing cheating on your girl. I’m just saying in the real world that option always seems to show it’s “ugly” face.
DATS WHY MI ALWAYS SAY WOMAN A YARD (OR WIFE LIKE UUNU LIKE CALL UUNU SELF) NEED FI TAKE CARE A HOME. MAN LIKE TO FUCK AND WE NO WAH NO BORING FUCK.
Here mi a say mi dadz. We both know that you gonna do what you wanna do regardless of what I may or may not say but lemme throw my 2 cents in. You need fi talk to your girl. See what her views or concerns are if any in regards to the sex. Man up!!! and express your concerns and desires. If she loves you she will do what she can (within reason) to please you. But opening this up can lead to other things if she agrees to your requests as I alluded to earlier she may eventually have requests of her own.
Dont rush her into anything either and here is a way to kinda slide into it. Visit a swingers club if you don’t know what that is google it. if you are in the USA you can find one near you at http://www.swinger.net attend a few parties and just keep your eyes open, she may be convinced to do way more than a threesome over time.
When its all said and done though mi dadz whatever she agrees to or not RESPECT IT.
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First of all let me say this, DO NOT USE A 3SOME “Megae a trois” to ressurect a sex life or bring you ‘closer” to your partner. EPIC FAIL
Then let me say from a woman’s point of view a few things in case your dreams do come true!
1. Agree to the rules with your partner (remember that after the 3some you have to live with her/him).
2. Give equal attentions to all parties involved. (don’t be more into new pussy or new dick, jealousy is a bitch)
3. Let the women take the lead (I know it sucks for the men, but if you try and take control too fast, you will fail).
4. Protection, protection and protection, did I say protection?
5. It is not a relationship, it’s sex (don’t share personal info, pics of kids, etc..)
6. DO NOT HOOK UP BEHIND YOUR PARTNERS BACK AFTER THE FACT.
7.Protection.
*meant to say Menage a trois* type too fast
I totally agree with Mal – a 3some is NOT a good way to resurrect a sex life. I do not care of the circumstances, 2 girls & a guy, 2 guys & a girl . . . if you are in a relationship with somebody in one of those situations, IT WILL COME BACK UP AGAIN.
As for Fudgie – WOMAN YES . . . you NEED to take care of your man at home. Don’t be afraid to give head, if you don’t want to give him any pums. NEVER EVER EVER let your man, leave the house horny or a hard on.
To Tony M. – it depends on how your girlfriend is, if you already know she isn’t going to go for it, than it’s really no way to ask. Just let her know, hey, it’s a few things I need. If you aren’t sure how she is about it, just jokingly ask her . . . and see how it goes from there.
And if you do manage to get a 3some . . . WRAP IT UP & DO NOT, IN NOW WAY SHAPE OR FORM, show that other person more attention or enjoyment that your girlfriend.
Good luck.
*NO not NOW
Ms Honeii may i comment to your “NEVER EVER EVER let your man, leave the house horny or a hard on.”
Gentlemen don’t ever let your woman leave the house without you letting her know how good she looks (cause the next man will)
and dont let her leave the house with a broken heart (cause a next man will want to heal it)
Nuff said!
if u were my man amd u bring that to me god know what i would…….u want 3sum find it where else
my man can’t ask me that any way cause when i done dash if pan him with out worning him say in and no want to come out the out mush less to look at some else
fudgie fudgie fudgie seperate real life from ur music dont come at her like that get a grip cuz u know u r fukn other girls regardless so y burden her with ur needs ask one of ur whores to do a 3sum n respect ur woman n besides u may open up a can of worms u aint ready for
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