DEAR DR.COCKY……… |

WHATS WRONG WITH ORAL SEX?

I am a woman who resides in western jamaica. I have been going out with my boyfriend now for about 5 years. Before him I would never think about oral sex in no way shape or form but I am in love with him even at this stage of our relationship so I recently started doing the deed.I please him because I love him and I don’t really care what anyone thinks about this. I find it unfair though because my boo is unwilling to return the favor. He makes up various excuses and at times act like dancehall music is law in our household, the latest excuse he gave me is that he will only do it after he is married. I am getting frustrated because we love each other and I think we should be able to express ourselves freely. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ORAL SEX????

What’s wrong with oral sex? (DR COCKY’S ANSWER)

Nothing if you are my girl lol (just playing) Let me firstly say Thank You on behalf of your boy friend Everybody knows that I am a big advocate of women pleasing us in all ways. If you don’t you probably don’t listen to my music and or read my blogs. On the flip side men eating pussy (especially in Jamaica) has been one of the biggest Taboos from as long as I can remember. To answer your question there is nothing “wrong” with oral sex but being a young man growing up in Jamaica you are taught by your parents, by society, by your peers that “Man no eat pussy!!” If you were in Dominica eg. you probably wouldn’t have written this letter (please don’t send a follow up email asking “What’s wrong with Jamaica” lol)
The following is an over used cliche but in this situation I think it is perfect.
“IF YOU DONT STAND FOR SOMETHING YOU WILL FALL FOR ANYTHING”

Let me share an interesting stat with you. %50 of men in Jamaica perform oral sex and from that %50 maybe half of them would admit to doing it. You actually have one a di “real” bredda dem. He was taught that this is wrong and he stayed true to his lessons. I think you should respect that and appreciate that you are dealing with a strong person.

My advice to you my dear is value your relationship, it’s length and the fact that you are still ‘in love” indicates that there are many positives. Don’t create an issue based on something that ,if you really think about it, is insignificant. Talk to 2 or 3 of your female friends and I guarantee that you’ll find that your “issue” compared to most relationships would not even be considered an “issue” . So keep doing what you doing to spice up the relationship and hey maybe when you tie the knot you’ll have something to smile about.